This is not a Cookie Cutter Love Story

When I started to speak out everywhere, to anyone that would listen, that I was in fact ready to get married, my Aunt Veronica always said to me, “Micah, you want to get married? Are you sure? Marriage is not something to play with. Yea, you’re not ready to get married.” Folks, I have to fully admit to everyone here….. I WAS NOT READY TO GET MARRIED. Between the fairytales I’d seen on TV and the love stories in the Bible, I always thought marriage would be as simple as 1 2 3. First, I would meet my soulmate as I’ve been waiting for him my whole life. Second, We would have the best wedding in the world and everyone would be envious of my big day. It would be complete with a horse drawn carriage and a Cinderella ball. Third, we would live happily ever after, in a big house, with all our children. Yes folks, this did not happen lol. In fact, it was the complete opposite. I prayed daily for three years to God about my husband. He finally answered in 2021 after six months in an abusive relationship and my faith being tried. In January of 2021, I heard as crystal clear that I will meet my husband this year. As a young woman who decided at a very young age that I would wait until marriage to have sex, this was the best news I could hear from my Heavenly Father. “Your husband will be here this year.” February came and there was no husband, just another failed relationship. Even as I was down and out and truly felt like giving up, I heard again, “Your husband will be here this year.” Another relationship, after another, after another, with no luck or blessing of a spouse who I truly wanted, there was no husband. I finally came to terms that a guy I had been seeing for two years on and off could be the husband I was looking for so I decided to give all my energy to him. He was not my husband but that’s another story for a different blog entitled, “To all the Boys I loved before.” The relationship was a roller coaster and even though I wanted for him to be my husband I continually heard, “Your husband will be here this year.” Now God, do you know that it's November and I am driving up to meet this man’s family? People, I hope you are listening when I say this. GOD DOES NOT CARE! His will is the only thing that matters. It drives the weather we see, the family and friends we have, and even the animals that run across our yards. His WILL drives everything and when you lay down your life to God and truly give him your undivided attention, you will begin to realize that every decision you have made, good or bad, all works out for your good because of His purpose for your life. You have purpose as do I, even the writing of this blog was purposeful. God literally allowed my past relationships horrible, even my now marriage difficult, JUST FOR HIS WILL IN MY LIFE. So in November, even after meeting this young man’s family and my spiritual cousin telling me that, “No he ain’t it,” I knew he wasn’t it and my willingness to be set up with another man without him crossing my mind allowed me to know just that. On December 17, 2021, I had officially met my husband. After being set up by his Aunt and my mother, we spoke on the phone. It was the most bizarre conversation I ever had with a man and till this day my husband and I laugh about it, but here we are married. Now, I know you’re wondering how our love story is not cookie cutter and trust me it isn't. In fact after our first initial phone conversation, we were reluctant to get back on the phone and it took two weeks and a nervous person, me, for us to finally speak on the phone again. But before we could even make an attempt at a relationship, God had to remove any extra baggage that would stop me from doing his WILL in my life. So the guy I was dating, all of sudden broke up with me without reason or cause. The guys I would speak to from time to time and even go on dates with were no longer interesting. Just God became interesting during that time. In fact, God blew my mind so much, the text messages I was sending to my now husband never crossed my mind, just God’s promise. On December 28, 2021, I sat on my stairs and cried out to God and I put him in remembrance of what he told me for the entire year, “Your husband will be here this year.” After, the conversation I had with my mother and her telling me that God has until December 31st at 11:59:59 to bring your blessing. Also, she reminded me that If God said the year then the year it is. God stretched my faith that year because I did not discover that the man I married would be my husband until December 31, 2021. This is funny because almost an entire year past before he answered. Actually, I was on my way to work when God spoke and said “Your husband is here.” He was the only guy I was communicating with and we finally had another phone conversation on December 29th and could not get enough of each other. It took my faith and obedience plus a lot of chaos for God to bring my husband. He made my world complete crazy for two days so I could not think, speak, or do anything against his WILL. I have one thing to say God, THANK YOU. Thank you for not allowing me to stop the destiny you have for my life. Thank you for healing me. Through every relationship you put me in, I received more healing and more knowledge. No, my relationship has not been easy with my now husband. In fact, we had a heartbreaking 2022 but all along he was my husband and we married on December 17, 2022. One year after our initial conversation on the phone. However, I was ready for the heartbreaking 2022 and could get through it because of 2021. See folks, God has to ready you for his purpose. He has to work out all the stuff in you that will not bring his kingdom glory or allow you to complete your destiny. If someone would have told me this, I would of laugh. Even from the arguments, to the life and death situations, and even the passing of our old selves, we made it down the aisle only because I was ready for what God needed done in our relationship. But you have to tune in next week for the blog, “We are the Germans,” where I unfold all the tea concerning the toughest year of my life, 2022. I will explain every argument, my life changing summer in Hawaii, and why my husband finally proposed to me. Love you guys and I will see you next week.