Before I Meet You

Thank you for the grace you all have shown me. I know I have not posted in two weeks. I went to California for a conference for a week and then I came home sick. I love you guys and here is the post…

There are important steps that God will take you through to prepare you for your next character. If it is marriage that you are seeking next then the first step is making God aware of what your desires are. Psalms 37:4 tells us to Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart. The first part of this scripture is to delight ourselves in God. How many of us put God down when we are in relationships? God is supposed to be the forefront of your life especially in your marriage but if you put Him down then how can he bless you. The first step in preparing for your soulmate, helpmeet, husband, wife, partner is to bring God to the place He is always supposed to be in your life, 1st. This starts with total saturation in God. Prayer, praise worship, reading of the word, and listening to sermons or attending church. With this day in time, it is easy to be distracted by life or social media. The world even teaches us to be more concerned with what our neighbors are doing. Remember the Bible tells us that judge and ye shall be judged (Matthew 7). So if you are concerned about what your momma, friend, or even neighbor has going on in their life and putting your lips on it then judgement shall come upon your home. When you are fully saturated in God, you will stop worrying about the next person and focus totally on you. For me when I put down secular tv and music and truly started focusing on God, he was able to prepare me for the desire in my heart which was marriage. The next step in preparing yourself before you meet who God truly has for you is making your request plain. The bible tells us over and over again in different books that we must ask God what we are wanting. Just like we would ask our parents, God is your Dad so you have to ask him. Remember, ask and ye shall receive, write your vision and make it plain, and let your requests be known unto God. All of these scriptures are telling us that there is power in the tongue. Speak it so what you are desiring shall come to pass. For example, At the age of 24 I started to ask God for my husband. My husband did not come until I was 28. That was 4 years of constant prayers, cries, stresses, and disbelief. Sometimes, God truly wants to see how bad you want it before He allows it to come to pass. Can you weather the storm? During the time that I was asking God for my husband, my mom would ask me, “What characteristics do you want in your husband?” When she first started asking, my list would be long but by the end of the 3rd year my list was short. It went from 10 qualities to just three. I wanted my husband to know God/have a heart for Him, be at least 6 ft, and have no children. Guess what? I got everything on my list. My husband has a heart for God, he is 6 ft, and have no children. Now, please be a little more detailed like God let him be wealthy, at least a decent communicator, and no divorce lol Hindsight is 20/20 but there is a reason why my list got shorter as the years went by. The reason is simple….. I STARTED TO GET HEALED and this is the third and final step in before you meet your spouse. Get yourselves healed before God can truly bring who you are supposed to be with. God does not want you hurting his children, causing more harm to them, and to whom much is given much is required. So saturating your life in God will begin an intimate relationship with him where He will speak with you and love on you. When you discover God’s voice and His ways, then you cannot return to the old life that you were once living hence the “to whom much is given much is required.” Healing is the children’s bread, and we eat of it daily. God describes healing as bread because bread represents nourishment, and it is a parent’s responsibility to feed their children. So it is God’s responsibility to heal us and make us free. Two weeks ago, I spoke about how my husband’s filters were causing us to argue and he realized that he needed deliverance from his past. Deliverance is healing and it allows for God to create in you a clean heart and renew a right spirit in you. Just like my husband, if you go into your God ordained, supernatural marriage with baggage and hurt from your past, then it allows the devil to come in to steal, kill, and destroy. Without healing, the devil has an open door to come in and wreak havoc. The saying is hurt people, hurt people so the hurt must stop with you in your relationships. Before my husband’s renewal of his mind and spirit, he would know just how to hurt me but I would tend to not hurt him. Why? Because I had four years of deliverance and understanding so when he gave me hatred, I was able to come back with love. The bible tells us in 1 Peter 4:8, Above all love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. This means that we must love regardless of the next person’s sin may be. Now sometimes, I snap, crackle, and pop on my husband but my husband will tell you that in most situations I meet him with love, grace, and mercy so he can learn. God gave me the best revelation when I was praying about my marriage. God will send the people that are working towards wholeness to those who are broken. Why? Because the freer you become, the more fruit of the spirit you portray, and the more of God’s presence follows you. Where God is, darkness cannot stand so any person that comes into your surrounding should begin to desire freedom from their darkness. I do not want you to think that deliverance and healing is as easy as 1,2,3. It is important to know that healing is a marathon and not a sprint. It is constantly going but I do know this one thing for certain. When you are ready to receive what is rightfully yours without the devil coming in to take it then God will bring you into it, not a second before. So those four years that I was preparing for my husband, I was going through deliverance and healing. God was bringing different people into my life to teach me lessons, show me grace and mercy, and enlarging my territory to be prepared for the storm called “Rodaius”, my husband. Until I wrote this post today, I did not realize what my husband had been telling me the entire time…. “If I learn how to love and be a better person in this world, it will be because of you.” I was ready to be a wife to a broken man because of my preparation. Let’s be honest guys, we are looking at a generation of hurt people so do yourself a favor and walk these steps out so you too can be ready to be a wife, husband, and partner to your spouse. God, we thank you today for preparation into our next chapter in our lives. We thank you for healing and deliverance. God, heal our hearts, minds, and souls. God, show us our future and begin to activate our lives to get closer to you because safety is where you are, In Jesus Name. Remember, before you meet your God ordained person start with these steps. First, saturate your life in God and yearn for his presence. Second, make your request plain before God. Yes, he knows your desires, but you have to make it known before him. Lastly, focus on healing and deliverance because the more whole you are the better your relationships will be. Tune in next week for the blog, “Rodaius,” where we discuss why abstinence and virginity is what is best for your soul. Love you guys and see you next week.